From the MoneyStand inbox: Come clean about debt
It seems our post in July about Debt and relationships has sparked a few conversations! Here’s another guest post this week from someone who was inspired to write in after reading a post from another. If you want to write us a post and have your opinion on a debt topic heard, get in contact with MoneyStand.
I would never lie about anything to a partner, as I believe that a relationship should be based on honesty. Fortunately, I was brought up with the attitude that debt is something to be avoided. Sadly, with today’s attitude of instant gratification, debt threatens the relationships of many couples, especially if both partners are not jointly responsible for getting into the situation.
A former partner, however, did have a habit of spending in secret, as they knew that I would be upset to know they were wasting such large amounts when we could not afford it. Finding the credit card bills, and knowing that these had to be paid for, caused numerous arguments, as I was concerned that our budget could not cover this expenditure.
Concealing financial problems is understandable, but secrets have a way of emerging, and a partner may well be more upset if the facts are kept from them. Anyone in debt would be well advised to be honest about it; of course the initial response may be anger, but they may find that the partner is more understanding than they expected, and will work with them to find a solution to the problem.
